Why everything will be better in the morning

Dear Daughter,

As much as I will try to keep you away from it, you will face pain and struggle at some point. At several points, actually. It’s just a part of life, to go through difficulties and to grow through those experiences. Going through trials actually makes you a better, more well-rounded person, which is difficult to believe at the time but in retrospect is always made clear.

There will be times when you’re devastated, heart-wrenched, and cannot imagine ever being happy again. A boy might break up with you, a friend might stab you in the back, or you might lose someone you love forever.

There will be other times when there’s just drama. You and a friend or group of friends are fighting, someone’s telling lies about you, work or school seems like an insurmountable obstacle.

When these things happen, it’s easy to dwell on them and think that your life is and always will be centered on that very problem. And I’ve learned that these problems are especially exaggerated at night.

The end of the day is when you’re most tired and when your emotions run highest. Add to that hours of painful analysis about whatever situation is plaguing you at the time, and you’re bound to magnify the drama of that situation. You imagine the worst-case scenarios and assume they’re going to happen to you. Or you just wallow in your grief and simply cannot get out of it.

When that happens to me, I always try to tell myself, “Everything will be better in the morning.”

I think it’s cool that we’re created to sleep at night, when it’s dark, so that when we awaken we rise up at the same time the sun does. There’s a psychological metaphor that goes with what’s physically happening outside. In the morning, your outlook, like the sun, is brighter. Your attitude, like the dew, rinses away the grime of the day before, making everything fresh and new.

The pain might still be there. But in the morning, it’ll be more bearable, and the possibility of moving on will seem more plausible. Because with the morning comes the opportunity to make this new day better than the last.

So, Daughter, whenever it’s late at night and you’re crying over a box of memories, or pacing your room in anger, know that you’re probably only making things worse. Go to bed, get some sleep, and remember…. everything will be better in the morning.

Love,
Mom

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. keeks
    Aug 24, 2011 @ 16:07:10

    Love this: “I think it’s cool that we’re created to sleep at night, when it’s dark, so that when we awaken we rise up at the same time the sun does. There’s a psychological metaphor that goes with what’s physically happening outside. In the morning, your outlook, like the sun, is brighter. Your attitude, like the dew, rinses away the grime of the day before, making everything fresh and new.” This is so true! I am amazed at your ability to post five days a week. Keep up the fantastic job! I am so proud of you!

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