The right way to make a New Year’s resolution

Dear Daughter,

I’m back! I had to take a break from blogging for a while to tend to some other things, plus to get some sleep, since I’m now nine months pregnant, and getting a full night’s sleep is as unlikely as finding the end of a rainbow. I think God makes sleep difficult for pregnant women as a way of preparing us for the sleepless nights that come with a newborn. I consider myself fully prepared!


Today I want to talk about New Year’s resolutions. I’ve written before about making New School Year Resolutions, which are important for students. But now is the time of year when everyone—young and old—sets new goals and hopes to achieve them. Most resolutions deal with diet or exercise, inspired after stuffing ourselves to the gills during the holidays. Others are more life-improvement-related, like reading the Bible more or getting out of debt. And still others are self challenges—traveling to all 50 states in a year, or running a marathon.

It’s so tempting to want to have multiple New Year’s resolutions. After all, every one of us desires self-improvement in more than one area of our life. But to expect a major overhaul in each of those areas is unrealistic and will only lead to disappointment. So I recommend choosing just one resolution, and make it something that’s specific and feasible. Some of my past resolutions are:

1) Call my grandmother at least once a month. (Doesn’t sound like much but I hate talking on the phone, so it was a big deal.)
2) Take photos at every possible opportunity.
3) Always be reading at least one book.
4) Eat a fruit and vegetable at every meal.

As you can see, these resolutions are concrete and measurable, which made it easier to be intentional about them. (They say that such a method is what works for losing weight, too, by the way. Instead of saying, “I’m going to lose 20 pounds,” say, “I’m going to do 30 minutes of cardio exercise six days a week.”) It’s the small, specific goals that lead to the fulfillment of the big-picture goals.

I’ve been going back and forth about what I want this year’s resolution to be. I have several to choose from (one of which is, not saying the word “cool” so much. I realized the other day that I use that word all the time, usually in response to someone telling me something interesting. It makes me sound young and inarticulate, so I need to stop.) But because I’m committed to keeping up with this blog and writing a book, I know what my resolution needs to be, and that is…

To write something—anything—every day of the week.

Even if it’s just a single sentence! I need to make writing a priority and a habit. I will cut myself some slack on this during the first couple of weeks after the baby’s born, but once I’m settled with all of that, this is what I commit to. And I’m excited about it.

Daughter, I look forward to hearing what your goals are for this year, and to helping each other achieve our goals.



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